Kursus Kahwin

This weekend D and I together with our future husbands will be attending the kursus kahwin at Mont Kiara. I'm looking forward to a fulfilling and fruitful religious discourse. I truly hope it will be academic and dynamic with a focus on ensuring correct implementation and understanding the spirit of the religious requirements of marriage, instead of an emphasis on the procedural requirements.


Did you know that Christians too, have something akin to a kursus kahwin? My friend A, got married last month and while she is not a practicing Christian, and neither is her husband for that matter, she and her husband were required to attend pre-marital counselling. All members of a church (cell?)will undergo this counselling.

What is offered is actually Christian pre-marital counselling and non-Christian pre-marital counselling. I wonder if many non-Christians know about this and whether any actually do consult a church for pre-marital counselling. What I personally think is a very good thing about counselling that the church offers is that it counsels you for a period of TWO years preceding your marriage, apparently. A, who is such a anti-religion person, be it Christianity, Islam or whatever, even told me that she found it helpful.

But what i found very strange is that A and her husband could not get married in a church because they have not attended mass for continously for the past 3 months, which is apparently a requirement if you wish to marry in the church itself. So what happened was that the religious ceremony took place in a room at the hotel where the reception was, with the pastor from her church presiding. Damn, I'd love to have gone to a pretty church wedding!!

Anyway A's wedding was just fantastic, fun and filled with happiness. Congrats Ash, I am so happy for you - and you couldn't have looked prettier on that day!